Breaking Points (or some notes-to-self for 2023 & Beyond)

Dec 29

Written By Jason Ruan

(In no particular order)

Self-respect can slowly diminish when we don’t keep our word to ourselves first and foremost.
Learning to embrace solitude is a skill that can be developed. Once developed it can be a superpower.
Logically, we know that we learn from our mistakes. Practically, we often try to avoid making them. That doesn’t make sense.
Your intention and someone’s perception can be horribly misaligned. (A great lesson.) Think twice before you speak once.
You never regret exercising. (Even if you have to drag yourself kicking and screaming.) You always feel better afterwards.
It’s truly beautiful to actually like yourself. To dig your own company. Like when you’re all alone and you have no desire to escape yourself in distractions and/or destructive behaviors. (Years ago, I used to joke that John Mayer’s “Perfectly Lonely” was my theme song. Still a great song.)
It’s okay to love people from afar, with no malice in your heart and nothing but well-wishes.
Everyone’s going through things you know nothing about.
Healing will never be linear or final. But that’s okay. Life is messy too. Keep going nonetheless. This is a lifetime thing sweetheart.
Years ago, the night before I was to direct a music video, I got a small tattoo on my back that says “Less is more.” The older I get, the more I agree with that in some regards—less distractions, more focus. Less bullshit, more meaningful experiences. etc.
Drink more tea. (if that’s even possible.)
Savor the hugs you give your parents/family. Because you never know.
Sitting poolside, I was once asked why I was reading a book. I thought the question was hilarious. A better question: why not?
I used to feel an almost physical urge to go out and do a bunch of stuff I’d later regret. Those urges practically no longer exist, and for that I am continually grateful. Growth is gorgeous.
It’s okay to have NO opinion on a host of things. Your attention span is vital. Guard it ferociously.
On your Hero’s Journey, if you’re fortunate you’ll make it back home–to yourself. But nonetheless, adventure awaits. See you out there!
Happy Holidays,
December 2022.
JSR.

Jason Ruan

Breaking Points (or some notes-to-self for 2023 & Beyond)

(In no particular order)

Self-respect can slowly diminish when we don’t keep our word to ourselves first and foremost.

Learning to embrace solitude is a skill that can be developed. Once developed it can be a superpower.

Logically, we know that we learn from our mistakes. Practically, we often try to avoid making them. That doesn’t make sense.

Your intention and someone’s perception can be horribly misaligned. (A great lesson.) Think twice before you speak once.

You never regret exercising. (Even if you have to drag yourself kicking and screaming.) You always feel better afterwards.

It’s okay to love people from afar, with no malice in your heart and nothing but well-wishes.

Everyone’s going through things you know nothing about.

Healing will never be linear or final. But that’s okay. Life is messy too. Keep going nonetheless. This is a lifetime thing sweetheart.

Years ago, the night before I was to direct a music video, I got a small tattoo on my back that says “Less is more.” The older I get, the more I agree with that in some regards—less distractions, more focus. Less bullshit, more meaningful experiences. etc.

Drink more tea. (if that’s even possible.)

Savor the hugs you give your parents/family. Because you never know.

Sitting poolside, I was once asked why I was reading a book. I thought the question was hilarious. A better question: why not?

I used to feel an almost physical urge to go out and do a bunch of stuff I’d later regret. Those urges practically no longer exist, and for that I am continually grateful. Growth is gorgeous.

It’s okay to have NO opinion on a host of things. Your attention span is vital. Guard it ferociously.

On your Hero’s Journey, if you’re fortunate you’ll make it back home–to yourself. But nonetheless, adventure awaits. See you out there!

Happy Holidays,

December 2022.

JSR.

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